(I know this post might sound very interesting and/or corny due to the mass-access to “Why Black women are single?” or “Date outside your race?” topics, but hear me out on this one. Also, when I mean “okay” I mean a black guy that has a job (or a career if you want to be a butt about it), a place to live that is not his parents house, have GOD in his life, and have all his priorities either intact or working on them to be intact. -SA)
For over two years, I have heard the Single Black Woman dilemma that come in and out of my lifetime. I know that there are so many people that are attigtated with this as well as I am. Not because it has reach a level high, but for all the excuses that are targeted. It is like at first that sisters really believe that the full Black American male is really going to be like a dinosaur or something. So today I am going to flip the script about this single Black Female dilemma.
(……Get my bat, and start beating these articles, tv show documentaries, and other blashay blah until I just get tired.)
Okay, now that this is finished. I am going to flip the script and talk about something else.
How about single black men in their thirties with either one or no children that are successful in life?
(Hearing that bell from Mike Tyson’s Punch Out)
I know many women feel like, “That do not exist!”
Okay I will give you an example.
I had a cousin who has always been knowledgeable in science (Physics, to be exact). He graduated Summa Cum Ladde and went to graduate school. He made straight A’s and went to pursue his doctoral in Physics. He made history as the first African- American that was a candidate in the concentration of Physics at a particular high-profile PWI southern school. Now from undergrad to the middle of doctoral school, he was single, no children and at the middle of doctoral school he was 35. By the end of doctoral school he was engaged, but it was until 37 that he got married.
Now I know that sound crazy but there are many Black males that are like that. I have heard many tell me stories of why they are not married yet.
One guy I knew, 35 year old Army Sergeant, told me that he have dated inside and outside of his race and was lucky enough to not have children (Damn, that is good); but he just wanted someone who just was a serious connection to him. When black women find out that he is single at the age he is now, they seriously assumed he has been in jail, or gay.
Another guy works federal, 40 years-old, told me that some black women have a M.O. He remembered when he was working for an engineering company how his girlfriend wanted to get married and have children so bad. He was really thinking about marriage until he found out about her serious infidelities, plus pitting a child against him that was not his scared him from making a decision in marriage for a while saying “I have to really think things out. I rather marry a black woman because I grew up around black women and that is who I am interesting in.” For him right, finding the right woman has now come to dating and he has been trying to find that mate for 8 years now. Still those stereotypes black women bring up along with the women obsession with perfectionism for the ideal husband garnered him to now expand his horizons. Yet, he is finding what type of woman that he wants and narrowing it down.
I know this sound far-fetched to women but, this a reality of what a single black male single with no children go through. They hear about the single black woman’s dilemma and wonder “I am right here. Pick me.” Like a puppy looking for an owner (bad analogy……….but stick with the topic). I will say that Very Smart Brothers hit it on the head on issue. So for the ladies that read this post. I give them kudos on these issues because they have very intriguing (..and funny) articles about how a typical single black male think.
Well, I got to go.
-SA
What are your thought about single black men that are in their 30s, single, and available? Do you think that the Black male-Black female realtionship is dwindling or is it strong, just the media feeding some BS?
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