I Lost My First Crush Yesterday

Yesterday was Mother’s Day, but I also lost my first crush yesterday

Lena Horne, the silky-voiced singing legend who shattered Hollywood stereotypes of African Americans on screen in the 1940s as a symbol of glamour whose signature song was "Stormy Weather," died Sunday in New York City. She was 92

Horne died at New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center, a spokeswoman said. No cause of death was given.

I have a list of women I would just love to date if I have a time machine.

5. Brandy and Monica in the 90s and I transformed into a teenager (don’t front fellaz, we all wanted to.)

4. Irene Cara in the 80s.

3. Vanity in 1984

2. Pam Grier in the 70s

……and

Lena Horne from the 40s-60s.

Now Lena Horne was a different type of woman. Although Ertha Kitt brought out generations of fantasies (Some of them old and a few of new players use to tell how Ertha Kitt was the type of woman that …..well you know), Lena Horne brought out boy and man crushes for generations to come. Lena was a smile that you can see coming from a mile. She was what Black Hollywood was all about (It is not just the talent, but the eye of the beholder). My first sight at Lena Horne was when I was five looking in those Jet magazines in the barber. She was that woman that if she smiled, I would literally faint because she was that pretty and that genuine. She was an actress, a singer, a vocal part of the civil rights movement. At that time, entertainers meant more than these entertainers now. She paved the way for those who are good in the sound stage just as well as the acting scene (Diana Ross (who is also a triple threat like Lena), Whitney Houston (circa 90s), Jennifer Hudson, Beyonce, Alicia Keys, Queen Latifah, Brandy (circa 90s), Janet, and Jill Scott). She was the reason I really got into black and white films. I remember the episode of “A Different World” where the kids were meddling and saying that Mr Gaines about his old day’s memories. The students and the dean was trying to pamper Lena when she came in but she was unimpressed. She went to The Pit, asked Mr. Gaines to whip her up some of that good ole’ soul food and they were reminiscing about the time at the war where she was performing. She was real on that situation. I guess you can although I mean guy my age that was young was feeling Tina Turner, Whitney Houston, and Janet Jackson, I was stuck in an old soul with an old soul crush on Lena.

You will be missed Miss Horne.

-SA

What are your memories of the late, great, and beautiful Lena Horne?

Lena Horne Dies at 92.

Turning In the Playa Card Has Rewards.

This is a man's world, this is a man's world
But it wouldn't be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl

-James Brown's "It's a Man's World"

I have a routine everyday before work. It goes like this.

The Queen of Hearts calls me.

I do the three S’s (For those who don’t know, it is Sh&*, Shower, and Shave).

I get my food.

I drive and call her to see how her night went.

I am at work.

I love my queen so much, I am going to marry her.

….with that being said.

I know a month ago we were talking about single black women and I know there are many available single black men in the areas (Maybe not in the city, but I know the country has a batch of blue-collar worker. Trust me, I am one.) I did wonder who would it benefit if a brother married a black woman and I found the answer. It doesn’t matter if you are Wall Street or Hill Street, brothers need to know that marriage is where it is at.

If you think women still reap more economic benefit than men do from marriage, you may be living in the past.

Today, men are better off economically because their wives are, too, suggests a new study on the economics of marriage by the Pew Research Center.

It shows women's education and earnings advancements are translating into overall improvement for men.

"Marriage is a different deal than it was 40 years ago," says Pew economist Richard Fry, a co-author of the study. "Typically, most wives did not work, so for economic well-being, marriage penalized guys with more mouths to feed but no extra income. Now most wives work. For guys, the economics of marriage have become much more beneficial."

Pew used Census data from 1970 and 2007 to compare U.S.-born married people ages 30-44 — ages when "typical adults have completed their education, gone to work and gotten married," the study says.

I had to really think on this one. Most guys that I know that are married are very well off. Even though I have queen, I am still considered “single.” I look at this as a win/win situation for any brother who is married. I mean the old saying “Two heads are better than one,” is well in play. So for the single ladies who think brothers are going to be like this…..

After reading this, many guys need to think about the short-term playa cards and trade them in for a long-term prosperity.

In Today's Economics of Marriage. It's a Man World.

SA.

To the brothers, what are your view about being married vs being single? To the ladies, at this time where there are available successful single sistas, how would you view this?

The Most Beautiful Women in Sports Count

Today, until I feel like really just forgetting about it, I am going to run a list of beautiful female athletes. I don't know is it me, but an athletic female is super-attractive to me.

1. Marta- Soccer Player, Los Angeles Sol, Brazil National Team

She is the Candace Parker of Soccer from what I heard. I did not see her beauty until I check out the Los Angeles Sol doing promotion for their Championship run at Dodgers Stadium. She threw the first pitch. In the words of Pops from Friday

"Cutie Pie"

A Throwback Moment- Divine

I don't get it. What happened to these young girls? I know they did their first hit "Lately."



But what I was feeling was the George Michael hit "One More Try." Come on, how many people you know can actually take a George Michael and get a somewhat hit (.......Well Fred Durst, but his remake really was not all that good)?